As written for the blog on 365 Grateful, a film about the extraordinary power of gratitude.
I can be a stressed-out kind of person.
This is why I love to surround myself with people (like this beautiful friend in the painting) who consistently have a relaxed and peaceful energy around them. Just being near this person fills me with peace.
See, I want to be the kind of person who rolls with life’s ups and downs. Who is quiet and composed in the center, even when the rest of the world is loosing their marbles.
The truth is that I am so much closer to calm since I have started my Hundred Thank Yous Project. I am not sure exactly why this project having such an effect on me, but I do notice that I am less reactive than I used to be. What I notice is that when I am super grouchy or stressed out, gratitude is missing. I notice that I am not being grateful and instead have “the complaining tape” running on repeat in my brain. That tape is not helpful for a happy life.
I think my gratitude project has made being grateful a normal part of what I do every day. So when I am not in my grateful space, I notice it and am better able to switch my thoughts from what’s wrong to what is good in life. Even if I am so grouchy that I can only think of one good thing – that’s a start – a little bright spark and eventually things begin to look up again.
I may never be as calm as my friend who I adore. But I can bask in her peaceful glow and know that one day it may begin to wear off on me.