Art and Love from Me to You

love is the way

I got a call this week from a woman asking me if I would be able to print about 50 copies of one of my greeting cards for her.

Of course.

The past weekend was her husband’s funeral.  She wanted to send a hand written card to the people dearest to both of them.  After hearing this, I wanted to make her the most beautiful card, one that would have meaning and might lift her up in some small way.

She told me a few of the things he used to say all the time like, “Love is the way.  I walk in gratitude,” and “Teach only love.”   He sounded like a man who lived with an open heart.

I thought about my mother and how hard it was for her when my dad died.  I have a vision of her at the funeral with people on either side, each holding an arm, holding her up.  I remember thinking that when the one you love dies, it is too hard to even stand up.  I was 15-years old.

As I was listening to this lovely woman telling me about her husband, I felt such deep compassion for her.  I believe this is the gift of pain and heartache.  It makes us more compassionate, more understanding and able to connect deeply with others.  I’ve never lost a husband to death, but I have grieved the death of my father and my first husband who left our marriage.  Loss is hard.  I remember hearing Byron Katie say that grief is love.  We think we are grieving, but really we are feeling deep love for the person who died.  That makes me want to cry just thinking about it.

I believe her husband was right.  Love is the way.

{ 17 comments… add one }
  • Gail Haile September 17, 2011

    That was my “Wow” moment for the day. Simply beautiful. Thank you!

  • Lori: Ancient Winds Jewelry September 17, 2011

    What a beautiful story and a beautiful card! I’m totally inspired!

  • jen : painted fish studio September 17, 2011

    beautiful, lori. beautiful post, beautiful painting. xo

  • Lou Camaclang September 17, 2011

    Ms. Lori, your artworks are amazing as always. Thank you for keeping love alive in your colors.

  • Lisa G. September 17, 2011

    This message goes straight to my heart. Thank you for sharing. I’m sending love to you and to the sweet woman who is going through such a loss.

  • Jennifer Richardson September 17, 2011

    such gorgeous light
    and your art fills my eyes with tears
    and my soul with thanks
    for the hands that took the time
    to pour out
    from such a tender heart.

  • Marcie September 18, 2011

    This is beautiful. Thank-you for sharing this heartfelt story!!

  • brooke September 18, 2011

    so beautiful. thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart.

  • Julia September 19, 2011

    Oh, goodness me. My heart. This touched me way down deep, Lori. I walk away with a fuller heart. Thank you for reminding me of what really matters.

    Sending you love,


  • Susie September 20, 2011

    your paintings have that healing quality. How wonderful that you and this woman found each other.

  • ed pilolla September 23, 2011

    this was achingly insightful.

  • peggy September 24, 2011

    I so enjoyed reading through your blog. I think your heart is just about the sweetest I’ve seen. As your beautiful paintings pulled up, it was just like the sun coming up and it really brightened my soul and my day. THAnks!

  • Robin Norgren September 25, 2011

    This woman found just the right artist to convey her hubby’s legacy. GORGEOUS!

  • Mel September 25, 2011

    This was a wonderful post. My own husband passed away two and a half years ago, at the age of 31, and I am touched by your explanation of grief — it is truly deep, deep love.

    Also, your choice of artwork makes me smile. My husband would always tell me when I left the house to “watch out for deer.” Every deer I see now is a reminder of him and his love.

  • Mandy Saile of Bijou's Whimsy October 26, 2011

    Love…and kindness, indeed. And what an honor that she chose you artwork to mark the day and her gratitude, wow.

  • Anjali April 11, 2012

    Beautiful post! One that resonates deeply. It is amazing how saints and prophets have always said that love is the way. They say this even as it could lead to grief. Such a mystery!

    • LoriP April 19, 2012

      Anjali, your comments mean a lot 🙂 Thank you!

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